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We’re Back!

The site has been down for a while due to lack of responses and interest. Over the last few months however, there has been a trend in more and more people coming out with their stories of harassment, sexual assault, and how they dealt with the police and otherwise. These stories need to be told and so I will be restarting the site. 

 

Over the next few weeks, I will be making changes to the site including adding resources, and hopefully getting guest posts from both victims, and people who work in support services. Let’s break the silence around sexual assault and work to make this world a better place. 

Rape Crisis Scotland

From the People who brought you the “Not Ever” video, here is another well done video featuring other victims of sexual assault talking about their experiences.

I am looking for other YouTube videos to feature on this blog. If you or someone you know has a talent for making videos I would love some amusing, shocking, or in some other way attention-catching videos that bring about Rape and Sexual Violence awareness.

Please contact me at itsnotyourfaultproject@gmail.com

Not Ever

This is a new ad campaign, designed at pointing out the ridiculousness of thinking women “ask for it” and victim blaming.

There seems to be an increase in great articles on this subject. Here is one that shows how the idea of victim blaming is ridiculous by showing what it would sound like with other crimes.

http://thegloss.com/culture/what-happens-when-you-victim-blame-in-crimes-other-than-rape/

You are not alone

One of the results of sexual assault is that terrible feeling of being alone. It is that perception that what happened to you singles you out somehow and makes you different from everyone else. The sad truth is that sexual assault is disturbingly common. You are not alone.

This is not a tale that was submitted to this project. It does however demonstrate the attitude other members of society can take. Many of us have been shunned, ridiculed, or told “it’s not that bad” because of what happened to us. People have these messed up assumptions about what it means to be raped.

http://www.guardian.co.uk/society/2011/apr/30/rape-justice-after-20-years

The attitude the Dean had towards the whole situation was disgusting

An Essay of Interest: Culture of Silence

Although this may seem off topic for this blog, I decided to post it anyway. For all that we as victims of sexual assault suffer quite a bit through public opinion, it occasionally seems that we come off light.  Although Eastern European, I would most likely be classified as a white woman. This means that I have a more reasonable chance of having public opinion take my side in the event of sexual assault.

Many ethnicities are not so lucky. Throughout both Canada and the US, non-white assaults are less likely to receive media attention and even in some cases, Police attention.

This is especially true within Native Communities.  I recently heard a statistic that said that something like 150 Native women went missing in the last three years and their disappearances were not investigated.

Interestingly, First Nations people have been relatively silent in the past, when it comes to using popular media, in speaking out against the atrocities committed against them. In the class I was taking, I noticed a pattern. Many of those keeping silent, were those who had been assaulted in some way. Assaults that happened years before were only now coming to light. It reminded me of the silence of all victims. How often are we made to feel as though we do something wrong when we tell our stories? How often does someone tell us not to talk about it because it is too painful? Just as we have every right to speak out, so do they. It is not about others now but about us, as victims, to take back our voice and independence.

This is what many Natives are now doing. There was been a plethora of new books, essays, and stories written by Natives about their experiences in residential schools and other such government initiated acts of violence.

I may not be Native, but I hope that I can be forgiven in playing a part in helping their stories to be told. This is the essay I wrote for my class.

Breaking the Culture of Silence
Moreover, I noticed that the same sexual colonization that happens to the Natives in the article, actually happens to many victims of sexual assault. The same dehumanizing tactics are used against women of all races and creeds. I don’t care care which ethnicity you belong to, I think it is Time for us to Speak out and Break the Culture of Silence.